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From Fired Up to Frenzied in a New Year.

I don’t know about you, but I get so fired up for the New Year.

Planner, 2017, Business women over 50I read and listen to podcasts of my favorite business coaches like Pat, Amy and Ali while taking endless pages of notes. But the most exciting thing I do – unpack my new planner and colored pens and start to add special days, appointments and the business travel I know I’ll be doing. I even add…are you ready for it…stickers. No, I’m not one of those people who use my planner as a scrapbook. But I do add a little state sticker here and pumpkin there. It just makes me happy when I get to those pages and see a little bit of whimsy.

Then I head into the first week of the New Year ready to go! I’ve done my prep work. I have my theme and top five projects for the year.  And I can’t wait to get back in my office.

Then it hits me. The frenzy.

I start feeling behind in my progress almost immediately. And my inclination is to quit. To just fall into the same patterns of doing easy-to-check-off tasks versus working on the steps to complete my projects.

But this year I’ve done something different. I’ve signed up with a coaching group that holds me accountable. Oh, I’ve signed up for loads of emails and free webinars, but this one is different. First of all, I’m paying for it! Coaches need coaches too.

I have scheduled the calls, participate in the closed Facebook group and most importantly, I spent two days in on online retreat, looking back on 2016 answering questions like:
What worked?

What didn’t work?

What do I need to differently in 2017?

What are my BIG projects {no more than 5!}

I am…

But the number one task we did that has helped me the most is writing an I am statement, from the perspective of December 31, 2017. I just wrote. Things like I have given up the chaos. I am celebrating my eldest daughter’s college graduation. And on and on.

Then, I printed it out and posted it next to my desk. I refer to it daily and it helps me decide what projects to spend time on.  I want to be that person on December 31, 2017.

I encourage you to do that same thing. Don’t take too long. Just sit down and type or write out how you really see yourself at the end of the year. Then make it happen.

Periodically, I’ll post updates on how I’m doing with making my I Am statement reality. And I’d love to hear yours.

Next week I’ll share another easy to implement task to keep you on track and moving forward in business and your personal life.

Don’t forget to leave a comment!

xo

Engaged: She Said Yes!

Engaged!

Does it get any better than when your future son-in-law wants to ask your daughter to marry him…in front of the family?

That’s exactly what happened with our daughter and her fiancé.

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It was September 4, 2016. My husband’s side of the family always gathers for Labor Day weekend to celebrate multiple birthdays. This year, it just happened to be his mom’s 80th birthday!

We celebrated by giving grandma Sherry the painting, LaJolla.  It hung above the sofa on the Jefferson’s. Yes, those of you who grew up in the 1970s will remember the show! She had always wanted it and now she had it!

After dinner, we sat down to play a competitive game of Pinochle. Everyone – all the kids – were gathered around to watch. That should have tipped Em off that something was up. But she was focused.

Emerie and Cole are the next generation of players. The rest of the grandkids don’t quite have the same affinity for the game. But Emerie and Cole would play every night if they had a couple to play with them.

This particular evening, they were playing with grandpa and grandma. We were all waiting for Em to get the bid. She always does. But on this night, she kept passing. The cards were not in her favor. Then, finally, she got it.

When a bidder gets the bid in Pinochle, her partner passes her four cards. When Cole passed her the cards, he passed a double marriage – the two King and Queen of hearts! Each card had a word on it: Will. You. Marry. Me?

Em started picking up her cards slowly. When she realized what was happening, she very quietly turned in her chair and there stood Cole. She was crying softly; there were no screams. Just pure joy.

Cole got down on one knee and pulled out a beautiful, pear-shaped, diamond ring. And…

…SHE SAID YES!

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It was the sweetest proposal. All the Giffords circled around her cheering, hugging and photographing.

And then we ate cake!

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An upcoming engagement: Emerie + Cole

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Photo: Blinq Studio

 

Surprises! Surprises!

Our soon-to-be son-in-law has selected the ring. And now, he cannot wait to get it on Emerie’s finger.

Even though he called me to say he wanted our family to be part of the engagement, he later called to say that he would be asking Emerie on their date night. Just the two of them.

I panicked.

It’s tough. I am an over-involved mom, for sure. And while I was telling Cole, Emerie and anyone else who would listen that it’s their time, their experience, I wanted to be a part of it. I didn’t want to miss anything in this process. If it wasn’t a family event, who would get all the perfectly staged engagement photos? Who would tell their story?

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Then it hit me, with a little help from my oh-so-private hubby. The perfect engagement doesn’t need to an orchestrated event. It needs to be an intimate experience between two people who want to spend the rest of their life together. Even more important, they need to leave their mother and father and become one.

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I forgot that before social media, we graduated, dated, got engaged, got married and had babies without presenting it all to the world to see. It was our life. Not a peeping public’s.

So that was that. I called Cole and told him that it was his and Emerie’s day; that I was so happy for them. And that I couldn’t wait to see them as an engaged couple!

And the ring. I wanted to see the ring!

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Engagement Ring Shopping!

10.20.16

It wasn’t long after Brad gave his blessing that Emerie was dragging her sister, Madison and me to the jewelry store.

Like the next day!

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First, I have to tell you that Emerie worked at said jewelry store during this time. I’m pretty sure she knew what she was doing when she took that position!

She tried on loads of rings, but Emerie has her own style and she kept going back to one unique bauble. We’ll have to see which one Cole likes.

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There are pros and cons to ring shopping.

I think it’s important to love what you’re getting. You have to wear it forever. Yes, I know many brides upgrade at year five or 10. But if you have a hubby like mine, there’s no chance of a complete upgrade. When I asked Brad if I could change it up a bit, he looked at me with sad eyes and said, but that won’t be the one I put on your finger.

Aaaawwwwwww!

I’m good. I’m lucky to have gotten a beautiful ring in the first place.

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But back to Em.

The thought of that ring burned in her. And that meant she was a little thorny to Cole.  He didn’t have much of a chance to pick out something on his own; or in his own time.  Not that he wasn’t itching to get a ring on that girl’s finger. I’m just saying.

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I think she found the one!

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A wedding story: Cole + Emerie meet

08.10.16

The day has come.

Emerie, our youngest daughter, is getting engaged.

Her beau, Cole, called to ask Em’s dad, to dinner. We knew.

Poor guy had to be sweating it. You see, Brad is known for his lectures. Cole has endured many. What a guy! But truth be told, Brad really likes Cole.

This is their story from my perspective. And their story started three years ago when Emerie moved to Able 13. Her first year at the University of Nebraska. And her first year in a dorm. A coed dorm.

She moved in a week early to rush. She pledged her dream sorority, Delta Gamma. She had a roommate from church. We decorated her dorm room in turquoise and white.

We left her at school – a mere 20 minutes from our home – and we advised her one last time to study hard, enjoy sorority life and get involved. But not with a boy!

But you can’t time love. When God says this is your destiny, it’s your destiny. And three years later, Cole is Emerie’s destiny.

Yes, we wish they would finish college before saying “I do.” But that isn’t their plan.

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August 19, 2016

Cole asked Brad for Emerie’s hand in marriage. And he said, “yes. Now let’s talk about…

You’ll have to come back for the rest of the story.

I’ll be sharing this story as I navigate planning a beautiful and creative wedding on a budget.

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